The Sensitive Guy

From the beginning of time men have been perceived as "the rock", "the provider", "the foundation that holds every house hold together". They are strong minded, and their greatest fear is to ever be perceived as "weak". Women love a strong man, truth be told we like to be rough handled every now and then but the question is can we still love a man who carries emotional baggage? Can we really handle a sensitive man?

I'm sure by now you know every person you come across has their own sets of problems. Whether they be emotional, social, financial, physical, whatever, we all have problems. Some men deal with it pretty well. These are the men that you wouldn't even know that deep underneath that beautiful molding of a body is pain & agony. Pain & agony that they have been hiding for many years. Then there are some that wear their pain as a badge of honor. Let it be known to everyone who they come across that they too have problems and is still unable to cope with them.

Being a female, we are natural nurturers. We listen to them and try to solve whatever problems they go through. But truth be told after a while this becomes overbearing. His negative outlook an life is a burden, constantly pulling a gray cloud over your bright and sunny day. Sure we want a guy that can express his feels, and not just be an emotionless boulder. But where do we cross the line between a sensitive guy and a guy that just needs to grow a set of balls and just accept life for what it is?

How to move on from Mr. & Ms. "I thought" was right

It feels good to be in a relationship where you feel that trust isn't an issue. Love is in abundance and you can see yourself with this person for the rest of your life. He/She is always there, so much in common, the list goes on and on. But what happens when Mr. & Ms. Right shows they're true colors, and they're no longer the great person they seemed to be? How do you move on? How do you live life after being with them so long? Well her are a few steps in taking the next big move on in your life.

1. Who's fault is it really?
Sometimes we beat ourselves up a little too much when its not even our fault. Try to figure out what went wrong. Was it really all his fault, was it really all your fault. Take blame for things you know you are responsible and try to come to terms with them. It will help you in your future relationships so the same mistake won't ever happen again.

2. Recall the warning signs
What made you realize that Mr./Ms. Right was right after all? This will help you figure out things that you ignored. When you are out of a relationship, you instantly become aware of all the flaws one had. Now that love has released its blindfold you can see all the things that had big red flags marking it saying things like "Come on man, she parties and drinks way too much!" "Girl you know damn well he's not staying late after work." or "Damn he/she has way too many 'guy' or 'girl' friends to hang with".

3. Forgive yourself
It's not all your fault so don't go head and punish yourself by saying "I'm never going to talk to another guy for the rest of my life." or "I'm going to be celibate for the rest of my life." or "I'm never going to love again." I mean seriously, who the hell is that going to help? Mr. or Ms "I can take away all your pain away" is sitting right in front of you and your going to let that one person mess it all up for you? Get real!

4. Moving on to another steps I, II & III.

I. No one will replace them. So quit trying... the memories will always be there, so quit trying to find someone to replace and find someone to erase them. Stop trying to look for someone with similar features, face it, no matter what it won't be the same. So if she doesn't smile like she does, if he doesn't cook as good as he does, or rubs your feet the way he does. Stop punishing other people for it! Your just messing up your chances. Mr. or Ms. "I thought" was right may have given you the best foot massage you ever received but Mr. or Ms. "I can take your pain away" got lips of a God! lol

II. So they made some mistakes. That does not mean everyone else will. So give him a shot, learn to trust again. Don't close your heart... You deserve love so go out there and get it!

III. Regain confidence lost. Because without confidence, then what are we? What you thought was love was mere familiarity. You been with them for years so you think "Damn, how am I going to move on and I've spent so much of my life with them. No, your strong, you will be okay, and so will they. So throw on them heels girl, and put on that suit child! Take the world head on, you'll be just fine. Life is too short to be sitting there moping about what should have been done, and could have been done. =]

Lately

Lately, as hard as it is to find a job..is as hard as it is to find someone. Never knew it was so much work. I do realize that right now I'm so focused. My future is so so close right now I can feel it. Trying to keep my grades up, college next year. OMG! Never had I been so eager to accept responsibility. I'm trying to get my life in order. So senior year, it's go be all about me (I wish). Only thing that's pissing me off is the fact that I can't find a dude! I have my fair share of options, complain to myself that I don't need one. Hah BULL SHIT. As I get them I lose them, then replace them, then do it all over again. This is me, just me taking on my small part of the world. So I be honest, maintain a "take me as I am" mentality. Just seems like boys now-a-days can't respect that, can't handle the full blooded truth. So what do I do?