How to move on from Mr. & Ms. "I thought" was right

It feels good to be in a relationship where you feel that trust isn't an issue. Love is in abundance and you can see yourself with this person for the rest of your life. He/She is always there, so much in common, the list goes on and on. But what happens when Mr. & Ms. Right shows they're true colors, and they're no longer the great person they seemed to be? How do you move on? How do you live life after being with them so long? Well her are a few steps in taking the next big move on in your life.

1. Who's fault is it really?
Sometimes we beat ourselves up a little too much when its not even our fault. Try to figure out what went wrong. Was it really all his fault, was it really all your fault. Take blame for things you know you are responsible and try to come to terms with them. It will help you in your future relationships so the same mistake won't ever happen again.

2. Recall the warning signs
What made you realize that Mr./Ms. Right was right after all? This will help you figure out things that you ignored. When you are out of a relationship, you instantly become aware of all the flaws one had. Now that love has released its blindfold you can see all the things that had big red flags marking it saying things like "Come on man, she parties and drinks way too much!" "Girl you know damn well he's not staying late after work." or "Damn he/she has way too many 'guy' or 'girl' friends to hang with".

3. Forgive yourself
It's not all your fault so don't go head and punish yourself by saying "I'm never going to talk to another guy for the rest of my life." or "I'm going to be celibate for the rest of my life." or "I'm never going to love again." I mean seriously, who the hell is that going to help? Mr. or Ms "I can take away all your pain away" is sitting right in front of you and your going to let that one person mess it all up for you? Get real!

4. Moving on to another steps I, II & III.

I. No one will replace them. So quit trying... the memories will always be there, so quit trying to find someone to replace and find someone to erase them. Stop trying to look for someone with similar features, face it, no matter what it won't be the same. So if she doesn't smile like she does, if he doesn't cook as good as he does, or rubs your feet the way he does. Stop punishing other people for it! Your just messing up your chances. Mr. or Ms. "I thought" was right may have given you the best foot massage you ever received but Mr. or Ms. "I can take your pain away" got lips of a God! lol

II. So they made some mistakes. That does not mean everyone else will. So give him a shot, learn to trust again. Don't close your heart... You deserve love so go out there and get it!

III. Regain confidence lost. Because without confidence, then what are we? What you thought was love was mere familiarity. You been with them for years so you think "Damn, how am I going to move on and I've spent so much of my life with them. No, your strong, you will be okay, and so will they. So throw on them heels girl, and put on that suit child! Take the world head on, you'll be just fine. Life is too short to be sitting there moping about what should have been done, and could have been done. =]